When you meet someone new there can be quite a bit of pressure to get it right when it comes to that important first date. You don’t want to go over the top and set a precedent that you can’t maintain, but at the same time you want to make it special. Make it stand out from other first dates that they might have been on. The most important thing is how well the pair of you get on and whether there is a spark between you or not, but what you’re doing whilst trying to establish that is important.
I’m a big believe in thinking outside the box when it comes to what you should do. Anyone can go for a meal or a drink in a local bar, but what about coming up with something that is a little bit different?
A quirky mode of transport
There’s a saying that I like to use about how you should make a journey count rather than just focusing on a destination and I think it can be a really good analogy for the journey of life. Don’t just think about where you’re going with your date, but also how you’re going to get there. Turn that journey into part of the experience too. Anything from the front upstairs seats on a double decker bus through to a river boat somewhere can make that journey an occasion in itself. If you’re planning a day out then maybe look at taking a heritage line steam train to a nice country pub somewhere. Or possibly a boat trip along a river or across a lake. Remember, it’s not just where you’re going but how you’re going to get there that also matters.
Learn something new together
There’s no doubt that people bond when they’re learning something new together, so why not try out this theory on a first date. Book you and your date onto a class for something that neither of you have tried before. It could be anything from cookery to rock climbing. Whatever suits you both. But if you try to make it something that neither of you have done before then hopefully you’ll have some fun, bond over a shared new experience, and maybe also find something that you enjoy doing together for future dates.
A spot of culture
Culture can mean different things to different people, but if you’re planning to date someone then the chances are that you’ll share opinions on what culture means to you. It might be a museum, an art gallery, live music or a play. Whatever it is that you’re passionate about, share that passion with them on your first date. Show them your favourite painting, hold their hand whilst you listen to one of your favourite pieces of music being performed live. Sharing things that you are passionate about at an early stage can help you build solid foundations for a strong relationship.
Be spontaneous
Add an element of chance into what you do. Let the roll of a dice determine which restaurant you should go to from a shortlist that you both write together. Turn up at the local train station and let the first train that is on the departure board be the destination for a day out somewhere together. If you’re in a big city pick up a local listings guide on your way to meet in a pub and then choose together what you go to based on what’s on. Not everything in life has to be planned to the last detail. Spontaneity can also be a huge attraction in a date.
Keeping it simple
Whatever you decide to do, remember that you don’t need it to be extravagant. Something as simple as a walk in a favourite place with a picnic or a shared flask of tea can give a couple time to get to know each other and also plenty of opportunity for hand holding, hugs to keep warm and maybe even a first kiss.
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