Valentines Day may have only just been and gone, but it’s time to reflect on how it went and how you might do it differently next year, especially if you’re in a new relationship.
To me the key message is to talk about expectations first. Not everyone expects to be taken out to a posh restaurant and greeted with a huge bunch of flowers the second they see their loved one of February 14th, but then again some people do. To some Valentines day is just a commercial venture sponsored by the greetings card companies, but to others it really is the most romantic day of the year. Some even dream of being proposed to on Valentines Day. That’s not for me, but then that doesn’t mean that I don’t think you should make it special for the two of you.
Quite often just the smallest of gestures can mean the world to someone you love. Women don’t need chocolates, champagne and flowers to know how their other half loves them. But at the same time they would like to hear it. Tell your partner that you love them. Maybe show them that you do in a special or unique way. You could write them a letter, or even just leave them a post-it note somewhere that they’ll find it when they least expect it. Or how about making them a Valentines day card? It could just be a couple of stick people with a red love heart between them – nothing requiring any real art skills – but I bet it would mean the world to them, especially if you don’t normally do the sort of thing.
When it comes to gifts, I don’t really think that these are necessary, especially so soon after Christmas, but I’m not exactly going to reject something if someone wants to treat me. Try to think outside the box a little bit though. The shops may be full of red for a month beforehand, but that doesn’t mean that is what you should buy them. Think about what your partner really likes and go with that. What have they been looking at in shops recently? Have you seen them admire something in a shop window or when out and about more generally? Surprise them. Show them how thoughtful you are.
Gifts also don’t have to be bought. It could be that you do something nice for your partner instead. Tidy the flat and decorate it nicely for when they come home from work so it gives them a nice surprise. Fill the kettle, and get a mug ready for the next time they go to make a cup of tea and leave a little note next to their cup, along with a chocolate treat to enjoy with their cuppa.
What I definitely recommend though is not to follow what you used to do with a previous partner. Saying “oh we never really bothered about Valentines Day so it wasn’t really on my radar this year” will just leave someone hurt and feeling like you don’t care enough to be bothered. Trust me…
If you’re still looking for that perfect person to spend next Valentines Day with then why not look online? The internet can offer you everything from senior dating through to adult dating sites. There are also loads of regional dating sites that can help find your Valentine close to where you live. If you’re on the look out for single men in Central parts of the country them you could try Northamptonshire singles, or dating in Nottinghamshire. Start now and it’ll give you a year to get expectations in place for the next Valentines Day and who knows how someone might make you feel special then.