At this time of year dating can be a tad trickier than ever, for one simple reason. Christmas.
Whether you’re religious or not, it’s fair to say that most people celebrate Christmas in some sort of way; the most common of which being the exchanging of gifts. But what should you buy your new date?
Personally I think there are several factors to take into account here. The key ones have to be asking how much budget you have. Then you need to think about how long you’ve been seeing this particular person and, possibly the hardest question of all, are they “the one”?
In a way, what you buy you’re date may well help influence your future with them. Not in terms of putting any pressure on what you should buy, but more in terms of seeing if you have a good understanding of the person you’re buying for and how well you communicate with them.
If you’ve only been seeing someone for a few weeks it may be safe to stay with buying something consumable. Maybe their favourite food or a special edible treat. If there’s a perfume or aftershave that they like you could opt for something like that. Or maybe just treating them to a meal out. Possibly a handmade voucher saying that you’ll take them out in the new year.
If you’re at that stage where you’re still finding your feet as a couple a joint “experience” gift may be a better alternative. Theatre tickets. Tickets to a gig. Or maybe an exhibition or train tickets to somewhere. You could even sign both of you up for a cookery course, or something more daring like abseiling.
Communication is key and it is worth talking to your date to make sure you’re both on the same wavelength when it comes to Christmas. It would be pretty awkward if one of you turned up with a box of chocolates whilst the other one had bought diamonds! Why not come up with a challenge between the two of you for Christmas. Set a budget and say that it can only be spent in either a charity shop or a pound shop. Five or ten pounds can go a long way in a place like that and there’s often more humour in the gifts you handover afterwards.
Homemade gifts that have meaning may not cost much money, but can be a beautiful and thoughtful alternative to an expensive gift, especially if your relationship has moved on a bit. I’ve seen examples where someone has written down 365 ways why they love their partner on folded pieces of paper in a jar and then the recipient can open one a day for the next year. Or how about creating a photo album or memory book of your relationship so far?
Moving on a step further, Christmas can also be the perfect time to make a big gift, and possibly ask a special question with it. Is there anything more magical than being proposed to whilst surrounded by beautiful Christmas decorations? A beautiful diamond ring certainly looks even better in the right lighting…
Whatever you choose to buy though just remember, if it’s the right person then it won’t matter what you buy them. You’ll just get it right naturally.
If you’ve not yet found that special someone to buy a Christmas gift for then don’t fear. Whether you’re looking for senior dating and a specific senior dating site, or something geographically based, there are dating sites out there for you. With sites for Derbyshire singles and Nottingham dating in the Midlands, down to Suffolk dating on the south coast, there are potential dates out there for all of us. If you haven’t found them this Christmas, chances are that by Christmas 2018 you’ll be choosing a gift for someone special in your life.
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